Turning our son into responsible men can be seen as a dangerous journey or an opportunity to grow as a human being. On National Sons Day, every September 28, we think about our son and the legacy we leave as parents.
More than that, we take the time to listen to our son, to listen to their dreams or fears and thoughts about how to change the world. We all have a role to play. Men and women. Educators. Professionals of all levels.
National Sons Day is celebrated on September 28 of each year, but some have also been known to celebrate a similar day on March 4 of each year. There is also the Day of the Son and Daughter, which is celebrated on August 11.
HISTORY OF THE NATIONAL SONS DAY
National Sons Day has taken on new meaning as we enter the third decade of the 21st century. The #metoo era is long overdue, and society can no longer overlook the importance of raising our son with this in mind. The good news? A crucial national conversation has finally begun.
Parents of son today face challenges that seem so obvious, but no one saw them coming. Who could have predicted the surprising downfall of so many of America’s most famous and powerful men in such a short time? The list of names sent shockwaves through the world of entertainment, media, technology, and politics. And no one knows where we are going next.
One thing is for sure: it all starts with teaching (and modeling) respect.
Here’s lifestyle writer (and dad) Christopher Dale in a recent article for Motherly: “Parents of son find themselves in a precarious position, one in which the rules of gender engagement seem to be constantly changing. As society understandably amplifies the voices of the accusers, we find ourselves lifting up the potentially accused. “
Accused and accusers. That is a lot for our son. So how do moms and dads navigate these treacherous waters? There is no simple answer. We are in uncharted territory here, and this discussion should go on for as long as it takes. Preparing our son for this will require a level of guidance and communication that our predecessors in parenting could never have imagined, and that we have yet to fully understand ourselves.
Other than that, men have struggled with the stereotype of showing strength without fear or compassion. Fortunately, as society incorporates “emotional” equity in the workplace and at home, we are all redefining what it means to be a good son and a good man.
Let’s have meaningful conversations with our son on National Sons Day. It’s time.
NATIONAL SONS DAY TIMELINE
1790 – Beethoven
Ludwig van Beethoven’s father, Johann, attempted a musical career, but we all remember his son, Ludwig, as one of the greatest composers of all time.
1858 – Darwin
Robert Darwin built a successful career as a doctor, but his son, Charles, changed the course of history and gave his father a lot of credit.
1950 – Dr. King
Martin Luther King Jr. wrote of his father’s influence: “[He] had a lot to do with my involvement in the ministry. This is not to say that he ever spoke to me in terms of being a minister, but rather that my admiration for him it was the great moving factor. He set a noble example that I didn’t mind following. “
TRADITIONS OF THE NATIONAL SONS DAY
The only way to spend National Sons Day is to spend some quality time with your son. Do something that you like. It could be going to the movies, playing a game you like, or eating at your favorite place. Whatever you decide to do, spend some quality time with him and let him know how special he is to you.
NATIONAL SONS DAY IN NUMBERS
- 83 million families in the US
- 3.14 – The average family size in the US.
- 3.79 million – Number of babies born each year in the US.
- 40% – New parents who would rather have a son
- 28% – New parents who would rather have a daughter
- 32% – New parents who have no gender preference for their baby
- 69%: Son under the age of 18 living with two parents in the US.
- 29.5 – Average age of American man when first married
- 27.4 – Average age of American woman when first married
- 51% – Son in the United States are born boys
ACTIVITIES OF THE NATIONAL SONS DAY
Enjoy a healthy breakfast
Get your day off to a good start by enjoying a healthy breakfast with your son. Three Bridges Egg Bites is offering a free Egg Bite to provide a healthy start to the day Americans seek, while easily adjusting to their busy schedules.
Highlight gender equality
Make it clear that what each of you does as a parent is determined by your individual abilities, interests, and what works best for the family, not your gender.
Foster a #metoo conversation
Take time to discuss recent events related to this movement. It is imperative that son grow up with a healthy respect for both men and women. Parents, especially dads, should model this behavior at every opportunity.
WHY WE LOVE NATIONAL SONS DAY
Boys to Men
National Sons Day reminds all of us that we must set high standards for our son. Gender roles are changing faster than ever. The day presents an opportunity for parents to take the lead in this.
From Dr. Meg: “While a mother’s encouragement for her son is most effective in the form of emotional support, a father’s encouragement is most effective in the form of words. A father’s words have all the power to do or undo his son. “
Kindness and sensitivity
We cannot emphasize this enough. Let’s promise to make National Sons Day a time to reevaluate what we are teaching our son. The next generation of men depends on our success as fathers.