Question: My son recently asked me: “Is Santa Claus real?” How should I respond? What should I say?
Answer: It can be difficult for parents to accept that their children grow up and set aside the traditions and notions of childhood. For many parents, it is downright painful to think that their son has grown out of Santa’s years and all the fun that is associated with the belief of Santa Claus and his little elves.
By the time a child becomes an interpolation, he probably no longer believes in Santa Claus. This is an appropriate action for development as your child becomes more aware of himself and aware of his surroundings. But some preteens still cling to their childhood beliefs for as long as they can. The truth is if your child is asking questions like, “Is it real Santa?” He probably already knows the truth and is only looking for validation from you. If your child has asked you about Santa, here are some tips you should consider before answering the tween.
Is Santa Real? It is a perspective
If you think your child has everything solved, it is a good idea to be honest with him or her. When your partner asks: “Is Santa Claus real?” You could explain that San Nicolás was, in fact, a real person from a long time ago. He was known to leave gifts for the children of his village and to care for the poor and unfortunate.
The legend grew over time, becoming the story we all know today. Be sure to include your family’s beliefs and values in the conversation, which reinforces the fact that Saint exists in the hearts and souls of all people who are kind and generous.
Even adults understand that there is some magic in the legend of Santa Claus and that magic can not always be explained.
How many bitter hearts have become sweet thanks to the inspiration of The Jolly Old Elf? Is not that magic? It’s not real? How has your legend managed to survive from generation to generation? And for future generations? Remind your child that reality is often about perspective and faith. If your child understands that belief and faith are choices we all make, he or she may choose to believe in something even greater and lasting. Share your thoughts about what you believe and why, and give your child time to discover their own beliefs.
It might also be time to review some of your family’s annual Christmas traditions. Instead of writing a letter to Santa every year, his daughter could become a Secret Santa for a younger brother or a neighborhood boy. Or, he or she could bake cookies or bread for older neighbors. Ask your child how he would like to “take charge” of Santa and spread the joy and generosity he has always had.
It is possible that your daughter or son no longer look for reindeer on Christmas Eve, but it is possible that your teenager is ready to embrace the spirit of Santa Claus in a different way and spread the joy of giving in his own special way. Helping him guarantees that in the heart of his son, Santa will live forever, and is, in fact, very real.
Then, when your partner asks: “Is it real Santa?” you can answer: “Yes, it is, but not the way you think, this is what I mean ...”