Self-esteem is an assessment that a person has of himself. Being a personal assessment, it has no logical or rational causes, rather it is based on a set of bodily, mental and emotional features that the person takes into account before issuing the assessment.
Self-esteem is a value judgment on the person himself. This is changing over time. Thus, at a certain moment a person can have a high self-esteem (having a positive value judgment on herself) when at other times said self-esteem is low (having a perception and a negative value judgment).
Therefore, one could say that self-esteem is a construction of the individual. This changes in relation to how the same person acts and unfolds in the environment that surrounds him.
In addition, two main types of self-esteem can be distinguished; Low self-esteem and high self-esteem. There are also those who indicate that, in turn, these two self-esteem can be divided into two (high unstable, high stable, low unstable, and stable low).
Characteristics Of Self-esteem
1. Types of self-esteem
Self-esteem can be strengthened or weakened. If the subject has a well-formed personality, he will probably have a high or positive self-esteem. This constitution (although it is forged throughout life) has its bases during early childhood. If, on the other hand, the subject has a personality that is in formation or weakened, it is likely that he will develop a low or negative type of self-esteem.
A weakening of self-esteem directly affects not only psychic or emotional level but also has its consequences at the physical level. The opposite happens in the case of positive or high self-esteem.
While it is true that the causes of low or high self-esteem are related to the experiences of each person, it is also true that there are neurotransmitters that, if they are abundant or are scarce in the brain, interfere in the type of self-esteem that the person has.
Some of the causes for which self-esteem may be affected are:
Verbal or physical aggressions
Losses of loved ones
A person with low self-esteem often feels depression, anxiety, panic, anguish and sadness. While a person with high self-esteem is usually positive, cheerful, fun, creative, spontaneous and decisive.
People with high self-esteem are not afraid to speak or talk to other people. They express their feelings and thoughts with freedom.
In the case of people with weakened or low self-esteem, they usually have a constant feeling of fear. They do not trust themselves or their own abilities.
Those with high or positive self-esteem usually recognize the emotions of others, as well as being in tune with their own and others’ feelings.
People with reduced or low self-esteem have a feeling of reduced empathy, so they have difficulty recognizing what other people feel and think. They are usually immersed in their own thoughts and feelings, although this is not done in a conscious way but they can not focus on the needs or feelings of other people.
A person whose self-esteem is high, has positive thoughts. Even in the face of difficulties or adversity, the way in which he faces different situations always has a positive tinge, thus achieving a positive resolution. On the contrary, the person with low self-esteem usually lacks self-confidence, anticipating defeat or resolving problems in a negative way.
6. Risks and responsibilities
Those with high self-esteem are attracted to challenges, seek and enjoy them. People with high stable self-esteem often see in each difficulty, an opportunity to improve or overcome. On the other hand, low or negative self-esteem is characterized by apathy, lack of initiative, fear of risks and prefer the status quo before modifications in their daily routine.
A person with high self-esteem is predisposed to help other people without feelings of criticism towards others or towards themselves. They are usually people who highlight the positive characteristics of others and their actions.
On the contrary, people with low self-esteem, although they may have the feeling of helping others, will always highlight the negative characteristics of a given situation.
Personalities with high self-esteem express themselves in a firm but non-offensive way towards others. They accept their own weaknesses and like other people to show their shortcomings but always as a constructive contribution and to improve themselves, not as a criticism to undermine their own esteem. Although they like to be told their virtues, they do not like to be mentioned. They do not fear to recognize when they do not know something. They ask without fear of being judged. They are not afraid to say “I’m sorry” or “apologize”.
On the other hand, people with low self-esteem do not usually accept themselves. They highlight their defects (physical, mental or spiritual), avoiding being their own strengths and highlighting their shortcomings. They also relate in the same way to others. In other words, a person with low self-esteem can become a toxic person.
9. Degree of assertiveness
The subject with high self-esteem defends his point of view, thoughts and feelings in a calm and patient but firm way.
On the other hand, a person who has low or negative self-esteem will generally be an easily influenced person where their convictions, points of view or beliefs are easily affected by the beliefs, thoughts and / or feelings of other people.
People with high self-esteem look for new and interesting challenges to nourish their personality. They flee from the status quo or routines as this bores them. On the other hand, people with low self-esteem need to maintain established, rigid and unchanging routines since these produce fear and they can often paralyze them.
It is necessary to regulate the self-esteem, that is to say that this one is not very elevated nor very diminished and that the person obtains a stability that adapts to the type of personality that she has.